Every year for the last couple of years, I’ve been sequestering myself for several days at a time, borrowing beautiful homes in beautiful places for self-imposed and self-directed writing retreats. I find myself checking off a huge number of tasks on my to-do list in just a few days, more than I’m usually able to do in a week in my own home.
And why is that?
Because there are no distractions. There are no husbands to cook for, animals to pick up after, dishes to load, laundry to fold, or errands to run. While I adore my home and see it as a sanctuary, the reality of being home is that there’s always something to do here… something other than work. It’s especially difficult considering I work from home, and every day as I’m typing away on my laptop, the garden or the kitchen or the ocean view always calls to me.
So, I am a big fan of self-imposed writing retreats. I love to get away, focus on my passions, and find inspiration in a new environment. I love to hunker down and tackle projects that would otherwise be near-impossible for me to start (or finish) at home. I retreat in order to move forward.
Last fall, I escaped to a modern architectural retreat in Joshua Tree. It was there in the majesty of the desert that I spent four days working on my book proposal, and I left with a finished outline in hand and a solid idea of how I wanted to shape my book. When I wasn’t writing, I was outside photographing Joshua trees and taking in nightly sunsets from the fire pit.
This summer, I spent three days poolside at a midcentury modern retreat in Palm Springs. With a stunning view of the mountains just beyond the backyard, I powered through my manuscript edits in between dips and drinks and outdoor showers. That heated saltwater pool… divine! It felt like I was swimming in a private resort. And with the wifi reaching out into the yard, I could work uninterrupted.
With both retreats, I found myself more productive, more creative, and less inhibited. I recharged, regrouped, and came home reenergized, despite writing and researching for at least 10 hours a day. I believe that every writer, blogger, freelancer, entrepreneur, or any aspiring form of these careers could overwhelmingly benefit from a self-imposed retreat at least once a year. Look at it as a worthy investment in your business. It’s a valuable time to begin or revise your business plans, dive into current projects, develop new ideas, revisit old ideas, and otherwise plot your world domination.
At the end of every retreat, I’m on a motivational high and feel like I’ve just come home from vacation — only I actually feel renewed, and not like I need a vacation from my vacation. (I know I’m not the only person who sometimes feels that way!)
So if you’re ready to up your game and get in a little relaxation at the same time, here’s how you can make the most of your self-imposed and self-directed retreat.
Plan for at least three days away.
A typical two-day weekend will only feel rushed. The first day you’re just settling into your new space, the second day you’re getting ready to check out. That doesn’t really leave a lot of time to work, especially if your retreat is a few hours from home. Plan for at least three to four days (even a full week if you can swing it) to acclimate in your new surroundings and accomplish what you’ve set out to do.
Go with a goal in mind.
Before you arrive, make a list of all the things you want to accomplish on your retreat. Focus on one major goal — the one thing you really need to get away for — and several smaller ones that are easier to attain when you’re feeling stuck. Oftentimes I write down many more things than I can realistically achieve in the few days I’m there, but they motivate me to push harder and stay focused.
Pick an inspiring environment to work in.
My last two retreats have been in the desert, but I’m equally happy in the mountains, by a lake, or on a river. Choose a place that speaks to you spiritually and creatively. VRBO, FlipKey, and Airbnb are good places to start for renting a vacation home, but friends, family, and co-workers are also a great source of leads. I always prefer a vacation rental to a hotel room because it’s private, quiet, and you often get much more space for much less money. Avoid any deal that involves house-sitting or house-swapping because the things that distract you at home — piles of mail, plants that need watering — are the same things that will distract you in other people’s homes. You want to feel like you’re really getting away from it all.
Put yourself in a space that inspires, whether it’s a modern cabin with views of snow-peaked summits or a rustic cottage filled with fountains and flower gardens. Since you’ll be spending most of your time indoors, all the amenities inside are just as important. Do you want a fireplace and a big leather armchair to curl up with your laptop? Or a hefty farm table in the kitchen to lay out all your diagrams and mood boards?
Personally, I like little towns that are somewhat remote (so I’m not tempted by big-city amenities) and cozy homes that I can really settle into and put my feet up in. I like bright, airy spaces with ample sunshine streaming through the windows. Above all else, I must have wifi to work. I like to Google things, I like to listen to Spotify all day. There are people who prefer to disconnect completely while they’re working, but I have no trouble shutting off my social media when I’m away. Know how you like to work, and nurture it.
Remember: no distractions.
It’s all too easy to get distracted when you’re supposed to be working. Maybe you’re prone to calling your mom, shopping on Amazon, flipping through magazines, or catching up on Pinterest under the guise of “research” or “inspiration.” Don’t let these time sucks take away attention from what you’re really there for.
In the same vein, avoid staying in a location that has too many things to do outside. I could never stay on a beach that’s known for having an epic point break, for example, because I’d be looking out the window and doing a surf check every hour. But, I could see myself thriving on a tranquil beach that invites short strolls in the sand on my writing breaks. Think about where you’re staying, and determine if the outdoor activities, promenades, or downtowns are too tempting for you to ignore.
Take out or order in.
I usually make a small breakfast in the morning, consisting of coffee and maybe a pastry or a simple omelette, but I almost always order in food for the rest of my meals and make sure I stock the fridge with plenty of drinks and snacks. Simply put, there’s just no time to do all the cooking I usually do at home, not to mention the dirty dishes on top of that.
If you need to get out of the house to stretch your legs and sit down to a meal, make it a casual restaurant and not a lavish one where you linger over many courses. Now is not the time to fall into a food coma.
If you bring a friend, bring a “work” friend.
Even though I like to work alone, I like to work with another energy present in the room, especially if that energy is also deep in creative pursuits. Maybe it’s some sort of subconscious collaborative spirit that kickstarts the creative mojo, but I find myself more open and inspired when I have a friend along.
I like to share the momentum with someone, track our progress over dinner and have another brain to bounce ideas off of. At the same time, that friend needs to have a project of her own and be dedicated to the purpose of the retreat as well. Bringing someone who’s just along for the ride and wants to be entertained the whole time will only be frustrating for both of you.
Since I started my annual ritual of writing retreats, I’ve felt more focused and empowered than I have in my entire freelance career. They put me in pure create mode. They force me to stop talking (or thinking/pining/procrastinating) and to start doing. And hopefully, they will do the same for you.
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